What Happens at a Catholic Wedding

The Cathedral Staff invites all couples to watch this video provided by the United States Conference of Catholic Bishops regarding Marriage:

The Sacrament of Matrimony

The marriage covenant, by which a man and a woman form with each other an intimate communion of life and love, has been founded and endowed with its own special laws by the Creator. By its very nature it is ordered to the good of the couple, as well as to the generation and education of children. Christ the Lord raised marriage between the baptized to the dignity of a sacrament. (CCC, 1660)

The sacrament of Matrimony signifies the union of Christ and the Church. It gives spouses the grace to love each other with the love with which Christ has loved his Church; the grace of the sacrament thus perfects the human love of the spouses, strengthens their indissoluble unity, and sanctifies them on the way to eternal life, (CCC, 1661)

Marriage is based on the consent of the contracting parties, that is, on their will to give themselves, each to the other, mutually and definitively, in order to live a covenant of faithful and fruitful love. (CCC, 1662)

Since marriage establishes the couple in a public state of life in the Church, it is fitting that its celebration be public, in the framework of a liturgical celebration, before the priest (or a witness authorized by the Church), the witnesses, and the assembly of the faithful. (CCC, 1663)

The Christian home is the place where children receive the first proclamation of the faith. For this reason the family home is rightly called "the domestic church" a community of grace and prayer, a school of human virtues and of Christian charity. (CCC, 1666)

For information about scheduling your wedding or clarification of the Cathedral's Wedding Preparation Policy, email Paul Trzebiatowski or call him at 414/276-9814, ext. 309.

Music for Your Wedding

The following pages or documents contain information about music for your wedding:
Frequently Asked Questions about Wedding Music & Musicians (.pdf document)
Sample Wedding Music (page on our website)

Order of Worship:
Sample Order of Worship (Within the Celebration of Eucharist/Mass)
Sample Order of Worship (Outside the celebration of Eucharist/Mass)

Wedding Preparation Policy & Forms

Below you will find the Cathedral's Wedding Policy and Forms necessary for the planning of your Wedding. These materials were updated in February 2020.

Wedding Policy & Preparation Booklet (Complete Document)

The following is this same preparation booklet, divided into smaller portions for ease in downloading (if necessary):

Wedding Policy & Preparation Booklet (Part I)
Policy Information

Please note that fees are not discounted if preparation takes place outside of the Cathedral parish.

Wedding Policy & Preparation Booklet (Part II)
Prayers & Readings (with Commentary)

Frequently Asked Questions about Weddings

Individual Documents:

Wedding Preparation Document Review

This document is completed and submitted following your review of the Wedding Policy Book. It acknowledged that you have reviewed the policy and has a checklist of all documents that need to be submitted to the Cathedral in preparation of your Wedding.

Wedding Liturgy Planning Sheet

This document is used to record your Wedding Party, Readings, Prayers, and other Liturgical Ministers. There are two versions:

Click on the link you need below and it will open in a separate tab, some browsers will allow you to edit the form when you open it, others will require you to download the form (see upper right corner) and then open it, you can type your responses into the form and then save/print it.
Wedding Liturgy Planning Sheet Within the Celebration of Eucharist/Mass
Wedding Liturgy Planning Sheet Outside the Celebration of Eucharist/Mass

Universal Prayers (Prayers of Petition)
This prayer is prepared by the couple by selecting one of the two options. Please note that you MUST submit attached to an email and received prior to your appointment with the Priest or Deacon to prepare the liturgy for your wedding.

Affidavit: Freedom to Marry
This document is used when an Affidavit is necessary or required by your Priest, Deacon, or Lay Minister preparing you for the Sacrament of Marriage.

Ushers'/Ministers of Hospitality Responsibilities
This document explains the responsibilities of your Ushers/Ministers of Hospitality.

Videographer/Photographer Guidelines
This document assist those who will video record or photo your wedding.